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YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH A PERSON NOT A DOLL [Dec. 28th, 2012|08:22 am]
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My mom and I sometimes clash on this topic of "can straight guys fall in love or is it all about sex." Without going into much detail, lets just say that I got into this spat with my mom and grandmother earlier. I'm not gonna go into details of the positions here becasue that's not the pint atm. After I left, I heard them talking. (Yea, evesdropping is bad, but it was more of a couldn't-help-but-hear sort of thing. Not the point again,) So they were all like "oh she just doesn't believe that straight guys fall in love becasue it's easier for her" blahblahblah. And then they got to talking about how I'm not super anal about skin care or how I don't wanna spend money on manicures and have a habit of biting my nails which has been hard to kick etc. Basically, anything and everything they mentioned were LOOKS-RELATED THINGS. So....the way to make a guy fall in love with me, apparently, is to be as pretty as I can possibly be. OMG DON'T YOU GUYS SEE YOU JUST PROVED MY RIGHT. At least, you certainly added fuel to my fire. You've said NOTHING about trying to be more outgoing or a more interesting person or correcting character flaws (I mean everyone's got a couple) or anything that has to do with me as a PERSON. But you don't fall in love with looks, seriously! You fall in love with a person; if it's about looks it's about LUST. You can lust after a pretty picture but you can't fall in love with it! That's not love. At least not what I understand under that word. I mean, sure, looks are great. Everyone likes attractive people, just like everyone likes attractive houses and cars and clothes -- things, dispensable and temporary. Like sexual partners when the relationship is sex contained. Anyways, looks are helpful, but not to end all things. Agh.... This is so depressing.

[User Picture]From: rumpledlinen
2012-12-28 08:55 pm (UTC)
I have to respectfully disagree with the idea that straight guys can't fall in love - I'm dating a guy right now and I love him, and I genuinely believe he's in love with me, too. It's not about looks or sex or anything like that - I can see it in the way that he looks at me and the way I've heard him talking about me (when I walk into his room and he's talking to a friend, for example). I don't think guys and girls are all that different - I think there are people of both genders who will use others and refuse to fall in love but I also believe there are people of both genders that will fall in love but not related to looks, related to personality and things like that.
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[User Picture]From: alley_skywalker
2012-12-28 09:14 pm (UTC)
Yea, I wasn't trying to start an argument about that. I just found it frustrating that my mother and grandmother would talk about how guys can totally fall in love and then when they talk about what a girl should do to get guys to fall in love with her it's all about how she should make herself prettier.
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