||[Apr. 26th, 2011|02:39 pm]
I don't really understand how it is possible to be homoromantic asexual or heteroromantic asexual. Like, I understand homo/hetero-romantic bisexual (ie, I'm attracted to both but only form emotional/romantic connections with men/women). But asexual? I don't know, maybe because to me what separates a really close friendship and a healthy romantic relationship is the fact that there's a sexual component in the latter that there isn't in the former but...I feel like if you don't have sexual attractions to people, don't care about the sexual component (not limited to intercourse here but like kissing etc), then your feelings toward them are platonic which then makes it a friendship. Perhaps, with guys this seems problematic because OMG if two guys want to hug or be sweet with each other they HAVE to be gay. But I think this notion is socialized and internalized to the point were such an idea becomes natural but in fact I don't think that's true. I think straight guys act like they have no feelings because they think they HAVE to act that way to be manlystraight//whatever not because, given a different mindset, they would naturally avoid hugging their friends. Sorry if this sounds narrow-minded to someone, I'm not trying to offend anyone. Everyone can identify as whatever they feel most comfortable with but xxx-romantic asexual, the concept of it, seems kind of...paradoxical to me.